In support of the posted article,Swami Beyondananda states:
"As cells in the body of humanity,we can't expect to stay healthy ourselves by attacking other body parts.
How often do you read of the liver (venting)on the pancreas and claiming the islands of langerhorn?"
Umm -- how's this. All venting is processing; not all processing is venting. ("Venting" is a subset of the group "processing." ) So processing an experience (also called "integrating") might be: talk therapy, making art, venting, confrontation, re-imagining, posting on a message board, stewing, meditation, or even just plain old noticing something for a moment. Many tools for many situations.
So the sequential thing I referred to, is that forgiveness cannot happen until after an experience is "processed." For you, that processing may happen quite quickly and internally, esp. as you are negatively sensitive to venting and it is not effective for you as a processing tool. Then you like to move to forgiveness. I guess when I said "forgiveness follows processing," I just wanted to point out that forgiveness, however necessary, is not a substitute for processing/integrating experience. And for many, the path to forgiveness is a little longer, or includes venting about an incident, or even spirals (venting/forgiveness/more venting/more forgiveness, etc).We might gain from a forgiveness ceremony, rather than venting
Dear lord I hope this makes sense. It seems perfectly simple in my head.
if you express it, you impress (imprint it in brain stem, neural network, etc)
The definition given for venting; "blowing off steam or
expressing pet peeves and such" does NOT include processing.
Processing converts venting into problem solving or some other therapeutic form (processing/integrating/forgiveness)and is imprinted as such (nice image Beccy).
What Ding did in her posting on her no good no show was therapeutic, in that she went beyond venting to seek a solution.... that's impressive.
Thank you Beccy, Spock for the dialog and Ding for your methodology.
Your brain loves efficiency and doesn’t like to work any harder than it has to. When you repeat a behavior, such as complaining, your neurons branch out to each other to ease the flow of information. This makes it much easier to repeat that behavior in the future — so easy, in fact, that you might not even realize you’re doing it.
You can’t blame your brain. Who’d want to build a temporary bridge every time you need to cross a river? It makes a lot more sense to construct a permanent bridge. So, your neurons grow closer together, and the connections between them become more permanent. Scientists like to describe this process as, “Neurons that fire together, wire together.”
Repeated complaining rewires your brain to make future complaining more likely. Over time, you find it’s easier to be negative than to be positive, regardless of what’s happening around you. Complaining becomes your default behavior, which changes how people perceive you.
And here’s the kicker: complaining damages other areas of your brain as well. Research from Stanford University has shown that complaining shrinks the hippocampus — an area of the brain that’s critical to problem solving and intelligent thought. Damage to the hippocampus is scary, especially when you consider that it’s one of the primary brain areas destroyed by Alzheimer’s.
Complaining Is Also Bad for Your Health
While it’s not an exaggeration to say that complaining leads to brain damage, it doesn’t stop there. When you complain, your body releases the stress hormone cortisol. Cortisol shifts you into fight-or-flight mode, directing oxygen, blood, and energy away from everything but the systems that are essential to immediate survival. One effect of cortisol, for example, is to raise your blood pressure and blood sugar so that you’ll be prepared to either escape or defend yourself.
All the extra cortisol released by frequent complaining impairs your immune system and makes you more susceptible to high cholesterol, diabetes, heart disease, and obesity. It even makes the brain more vulnerable to strokes."
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