Somewhere I have notes about this for an article I planned to write on the subject, but I can't find them now so I'll answer off the top of my head and hopefully others can share their ideas and experiences as well.drea543 wrote:As someone who recently started receiving bodywork on a regular basis as a way to deal with stress and overall wellness, I would love for EgoMagickian or someone else to elaborate on receiving bodywork as a skillset.Receiving bodywork, just like giving it, is a skillset that develops over time...
If there's already a thread on that subject, just point me in the right direction.
- Receiving regularly vs "as needed"... this is often about valuing the self enough to make self-care a priority... some people don't have this skill and instead of receiving massage regularly are instead irregularly trying to make last minute appointments once their stress or pain has built past whatever their breaking point was. Then too much rides on that one session, which stresses them out during their session! It would be more skillful to set a regular appointment, even if it's every 3 or 6 months.
- Letting go of the mind vs monkey mind... sometimes clients have real trouble allowing their mind to switch off/go on a vacation, and it chatters on thinking about work, relationships, whatever... sometimes the whole session. Over time and with experience, they can learn to let it go.
- Trust vs guarding... sometimes clients have a hard time trusting the work, even if they consciously feel like they trust the therapist. On some level or another, the bodymind guards against the therapist's work and less rather than more is accomplished. Of course this can also be a reaction to inappropriate technique, so it's not always the client. When there's the right match though, the invitation is for the client to let his or her guard down more and more and over time actually embody (not just think/feel) deeper levels of trust.
- Level of awareness... practitioners are familiar with the idea that some clients who want really deep pressure request such because they are so disconnected from their body that they are in some way "numb" to lighter touch. So there are levels of gross physical awareness that different from client to client. There are also levels of subtle awareness. Some clients can feel energy work; some can't. And in some modalities the line we imagine is there between the gross and subtle levels gets blurred or erased. Over time, clients can begin to perceive more and more about what is happening in their bodies on more levels.
I'm curious what other receiver skills clients or practitioners can think of. I'd also be curious to hear about people's experiences with becoming a more skillful receiver (yourself or a client) over time.